The Very Best Sex Toys for Men

Our pick for the best basic cock ring is the Performance Pro Silicone Cock Ring: We like this one because it’s super affordable and the stretchy, soft silicone material can expand to fit most penis sizes. Plus, its flat design prevents any potential slippage off the shaft. This is a great cock ring for those just looking to dip their toes (or their penises) into the category, but it’s also a great choice for experienced cock ring users.

The Best Prostate Massager: We-Vibe Vector+

How to Use: Apply lubricant to anus and vibrator, then gently insert

We-Vibe has been at the forefront of long-distance partner play toys, from vibrating kegel balls to high-tech wands. But all of those frills would feel fruitless if the vibrator in question, the Vector+, wasn’t an absolute banger (luckily, it is). This workhorse is equipped with two motors and 10 settings for a variety of vibration and speed combos, whether you want more rumble towards your balls, the toy’s shaft—you name it, simply adjust the settings on the body of the toy itself, or via the remote control or smartphone app. At 3.5 inches in length and just over 1 inch in girth at its max, this is a solid intermediate toy, but it’s designed to handle even your most raucous smash seshes thanks to the extra-long, extra-secure base. Here’s an idea: Once inserted, rock back and forth while sitting on your butt while your partner blows or strokes you. Ideal Valentine’s Day weekend date!

The Best Beginner’s Butt Plug Training Set: Dosha 3 Piece Glass Anal Plug Kit

How to Use: Start off with the smallest plug. Apply the lube of your choice to the plug and your anus, while gently inserting the plug. If and when you would like to graduate to a bigger plug (this can take as much time as you like, be it five minutes or an hour—no set rules here), apply more lube during the swap.

Every chef has their set of go-to knives, every carpenter, their trustiest tools. This set of glass anal plugs is one of my most trifectas for sex, whether I’m aiming for some backdoor foreplay or gearing up for full penile penetration. If the concept of glass sex toys sounds counterintuitive, fret not; these borosilicate glass toys are actually far more body-safe than your run-of-the-mill plastic toys, and will have less friction when entering your anus. The glass also provides a satisfying, slightly weighted sensation in the anus that can stimulate the P-spot. Each of these plugs is a star in its own right, but I find myself using the smallest size the most. At 4-inches of insertable length, it’s more small-medium in my book—but the narrow design makes it great for anal beginners.

The Best Long-Distance Prostate Massager: Lovense Edge 2

How to Use: Apply water-based lube to the plug and slide it into your anus. Control it via the buttons on the toy or the Lovense app.

As someone in a long-distance relationship, I love the way Lovense toys can be controlled from near or far using the Lovense app, which is packed with fun features like video chat and the ability to create your own vibration patterns. This particular plug is one of Lovense’s best products, IMO: The angle is adjustable, so this toy can apply exactly as much (or as little) pressure as you want. There are two motors, one on the prostate and one on the perineum, allowing for precise control over your experience.

The Best Non-Vibrating Prostate Massager: Aneros Progasm

How to Use: Apply lubricant to the toy before inserting it.

“For guys who are first-timers looking to explore anal play, I would generally recommend a traditional prostate stimulator such the Aneros,” Garrison says. “It’s compact and easily inserted for newbies, and also includes touch points for perineum stimulation.” Yep, those little balls on either end of the base actually have a practical purpose: They press into your taint while the plug’s inside you, so your prostate gets massaged from the inside and the outside at once. As with many other Aneros toys, this one doesn’t vibrate or anything, but is instead made to rub against the prostate whenever you squeeze your sphincter muscles. Many users report reaching explosive hands-free climaxes this way.

The Best Self-Thrusting Anal Toy: CalExotics Eclipse

How to Use: Press and hold the toy’s button to turn it on or off. Short-press that same button to cycle through the toy’s 12 settings

“For guys who are first-timers looking to explore anal play, I would generally recommend a traditional prostate stimulator such the Aneros,” Garrison says. “It’s compact and easily inserted for newbies, and also includes touch points for perineum stimulation.” Yep, those little balls on either end of the base actually have a practical purpose: They press into your perineum while the plug’s inside you, so (if you have one) your prostate gets massaged from the inside and the outside at once. As with many other Aneros toys, this one doesn’t vibrate or anything, but is instead made to rub against the prostate whenever you squeeze your sphincter muscles. Many users report reaching explosive hands-free climaxes this way.

The Best Dildo for Prostate Play: Njoy Pure Wand

How to Use: Apply lube as needed and insert vaginally or anally. Thrust or rock it in and out however feels best.